Very recently I attended a workshop at a denominational evangelism event entitled, “Becoming Bilingual: Learning to Tweet and Love our Tradition.” The presenter, a denominational leader from one of our state conference offices was inspiring, fun, and very well versed on her topic. While I enjoyed the workshop, the conversion that I was hoping to have about the importance of social media in my life just did not happen. While I went with a very open mind—wanting to change my disposition & views toward the use of social media—when it came to discuss some of the very real abuses that occur via social media (the White Elephant in the room)—such as careers & families that are instantly destroyed through falsely manipulated messages or images—I remained as convinced as ever of the problems associated with the need, or is it addiction, of being 24/7 connected. Largely, I remain unpersuaded that social media platforms are a necessary cultural inevitability that we must participate in lest we anxiously feel left behind. What I want to do is invite you to take some steps back with me to ask, is social media really “all that?” Here are some thoughts for our ongoing conversation together.
First, I would vigorously contend that social media, alone, cannot build meaningful relationships. While social media is often touted as bringing people together & connecting people who, otherwise, wouldn’t be, it can also serve to do the opposite, i.e. it can allow for fabricated profiles of people to be constructed that make it virtually impossible to tell, without picking up the phone to hear their voice, if the long-lost college roommate you’re searching for is actually them or just a set of false details that appear to be them. In the world of cyberspace it is perfectly possible for men to be women & women to be men, for a 70-year-old to present themselves as a teenager; or for a teen to present themselves as being “of age;” for a person to invent life experiences that they have never had; to present fictitious career or academic standings not to mention presenting false geographical locations, i.e. the person who says they are living in Tucson may actually be the neighbor in the next street over in your subdivision. If cyberspace has succeeded in doing any one thing it has been to irrevocably blur the line between what is “real” & what is an illusion (as the Moody Blues once sang). Thus, if my experiences of social media are such that I am no longer convinced that people can be “real,” how might that impact my view(s) of God? Is God for real or just an illusion; the Grand Master Profile constructed to be whatever we wish God to be—devoid of any reality? Therefore, it’s important to remember, as many are quick to quip: “just ‘cause it’s ‘out there’ don’t make it so.” So what is “truth” in cyberspace? Unless, at some stage, you meet “a profile” in person, the veracity of Internet profiles is impossible to determine. Thus, while social media, by and large, is based on the assumption of “real” profiles by real living and breathing people, it nonetheless has stamped upon post-modern culture the exponential multiplication of the shadow side of life where false & untrue personalities & biographies are daily spawned by the millions.
That being said, while inventions such as texting can be an effective tool of communication in this “hurry-up-and-get-there, is-it-done-yet?” age, this, too can also disconnect human beings from one another. Take, for example, the parent picking up their teen from my home, who is working on a school project with my teen. Rather than pulling into the driveway, parking their car, walking to the front door & introducing themselves & having face-to-face conversation with me; now that parent merely texts their child’s phone who now knows that their mother or father has arrived to pick them up. Thus, the parent’s possible, meaningful interaction & relationship-building with me has been disconnected. All that glitters is not gold. My point here is to insist, restate, or shout from the rooftops if necessary that physical one-to-one conversations and relationships should never be relegated to a secondary role in human society and culture. Talking face-to-face always has greater value than texting, Tweeting, or IMing. It’s also the reason that watching worship on TV is never accepted as a total replacement for being in worship with other living, breathing human souls. It’s important to remember here that, theologically, we are made from the stuff of flesh & blood for a purpose—it is part of God’s perfect design for us. When creating the human person & breathing a soul into us (see the first two chapters of the Book of Genesis), God did not use as his raw material wires & circuits, microchips & screens—God choose to base personhood upon flesh & blood, taste & touch, presence and physical space. While wires & microchips have their place (and note the pent up need in post-modern Sci Fi to blend the bio with the synthetic), it’s worthwhile to occasionally remind ourselves that these “things” do not for us make. Tools they are, but they are not me! While I enjoy airline travel or driving my car, these inventions, ultimately, are not me—rather they are built to serve me. While one might argue that the same holds true for cyber-technology (i.e. it serves me), the subtle, unspoken assumption—often ignored—is that my IM profile or my Facebook status IS me! Only “me,” I would passionately argue, and not a construction or projection or a lie of “me” can build meaningful relationships. Further, only “me,” and not even a truthful profile, can adequately be said to be “me.” Admittedly, the problem with postmodern technology & culture is that less and less does it see a difference between the Self & the thing that the self created. Essentially we are seeing the Self & the projection of Self onto servers and avatars & profiles as being merged into one—the misunderstanding of personhood here is that the creation (technology) has become as important as creator (human beings). At one time, humanity once knew the difference between people & things; and ethicists & theologians would quickly decry any confusion between the two. Today, I would contend, this difference is slowly being lost as we no longer insist that what we create is no longer us. This, of course, has huge ramifications for what we understand as constituting “personhood.”
Second, social media expression can be hugely time consuming and has shifted attention away from processing—if not distracting—our relationships in physical time and space. This is perhaps nowhere better evidenced than in texting and driving. The driver commandeers several thousands of pounds of metal moving at high speeds in a shared space with other drivers. With regret, texts can intrusively interrupt (if it is not a sacrilege to say so) a person at anytime, anywhere doing anything including driving or times of worship, doing chores or engaging in prayer. It goes without saying that we all have witnessed near misses or significant driver distraction; putting at risk others sharing the same open road. Some studies even equate the distraction levels from texting and driving with drinking and driving. Our need “to be available” to send and receive texts could mean the death of another. Is staying “connected” in this way, really all that necessary or important?
Essentially, social media platforms, especially texting and tweeting have collapsed or flattened time. Indeed, studying history may soon become passé as all events are instantaneously compressed (often with very little, if any, reflection—theological or otherwise) into the “now.” While an endless stream of “now” moments may be temporarily exciting and thrilling (perhaps like a drug that we become addicted to), it also tends to weaken if not tire our ability to reflect upon how past experiences integrate with the present to create a new possible future. Indeed, while our heritage, as Christians, does include the “now” moments of inspiration by the living Holy Spirit, this is never done at the expense of compromising our ability to think critically & reflectively upon the saliency of God’s messages located in the past. Reflection helps me to take these past moments and integrate them into my faith & personhood. I cannot forget the ongoing learning that takes place when I think of what others have learned from God in the past, i.e. all relevancy and all faith is not just predicated upon the “now” moment, but also vigorously built upon the “before.” As a believer, I cannot forget this. I must, as Jesus asked His followers at the Table, to “remember.”
In the pre-email era, people would, in a focused fashion, sit down & “write” a letter. At the risk of dating my age, my wife & I once wrote letters back & forth to each other during our engagement. Did this take time? Of course, esp. since they were love letters. But once the letter was written and mailed—the task of communication complete—my focus again returned to the present circumstances and surroundings of my life; all of which required my undivided energy and attention. I want to be careful not to say that in a pre-social media world that distractions did not exist—because they did. But of concern today is
the overwhelming nature of the legitimacy of intrusion that social media has made as the new norm! To be endlessly available to, & interrupted by, the messaging demands of others can leave us feeling pressured or bound to stop what we are doing in that moment of precious time & space to reply. There was a time when the store clerk did not answer the phone, if a customer was at the counter.
The flawed perspective we must avoid is that the ‘incoming’ message has greater value & power than the activity which that message is interrupting; be that driving, sleeping, making love, walking in the park, being at the theatre, ball game, or spending time with one’s family. The question for today’s cyber-generation asks if there is any value in turning phones & PCs off altogether to journey into the self or enjoying the company of others without interruption? Perhaps this is a question of boundaries or balance, especially for the believer, that I will address by insisting that there is immeasurable meaning in not being connected to technology. Without a doubt such boundaries are forever blurred when some take their ‘Blackberries’ with them to the grave. See >
http://apcmag.com/bury_me_with_my_blackberry.htm.
Finally, let’s remember that Christianity, the world’s largest religion, has a great tradition of its followers finding time to draw apart to places of quiet to refresh the soul & gain fresh, new perspectives. From the Gospels, we find that this was a habit & way of life for Jesus (Mark 1, Mark 5, Mark 14, Luke 4, 5 & 6). And if Jesus had this habit, so ought also His followers so to do. From this emphasis was born the movement of eastern desert monasticism & Anglo-Irish hermits. Even today the spiritual practices of “quiet time,” daily devotions, and retreats away all reflect the importance of a singular reality: the believer must have times of quiet & uninterrupted space to reconnect with God. The purpose of the space is to give God the primacy of our time, and to hear God’s voice speak, lead, and guide our lives. If you’ve ever said to someone, “Shhh, I can’t hear the person on the other end of the phone,” you’ll appreciate how important it is to have a level of quiet and focus as The Other speaks. Sometimes it is only in the quiet that God can deal with our own demons; be they self-made or imposed from without. Of course, God doesn’t just speak exclusively in quiet places and spaces: mountaintops, open fields, and babbling brooks, God also speaks in cluttered, noisy cities & the din of urban sprawl. The quest or the spiritual discipline, however, remains the same: is there an interior place of the soul that can be uniquely claimed by God without interruption from demands, pressures or daily duties? The value of this, of course, lies in affirming that “something wonderful” happens to us in those spaces of the heart that are given completely over to God. In this holy space, we say, again that no created device can do for us what the uncreated God is able to do: take our lives, our pressures, & our stresses, and in the midst of all that, still affirm our worth, our purpose, our dignity & value as human beings. This is a message that no created device can “send” or convey. And it is a message that we must make the space to regularly hear, wrestle with, and eventually accept as being true. Faith in God largely lacks if we only bring our “things” to be blessed and not ourselves. Rather, because God’s image (imago dei) resides within us, it is we whom God wishes to bless with the capacity to live eternally—a boast that no created object can ever make. To intentionally create and make “spiritual space” that only invites God to intrude in upon is an expression that we believe God to be God. To be in a place of elevating the legitimacy of “distraction,” only serves to diminish God’s voice and marginalize His presence. Even when I attend the symphony or pay $10 to watch a movie in a theatre, I am politely asked to power down my “device” so that (1) my soul can enjoy the symphony or movie & (2) so that those attending the same event might also have the same opportunity. If by turning off/muting our phones during a movie constitutes a respect for the person in the seat ahead of me who has also purchased a ticket for $10, can I not show that same respect to God—or to those that gather for worship of God? That is not to say that God cannot use technology for inspiration, imagination, evangelism or mission—but it is to say that God does not “need” technology to make these things happen. The urge to always have our phone on or to “tweet” or to update our Facebook page does not for a complete human being make. So, we should never feel naked if we engage in prayer or live our hours with our cell phone turned off. By way of confession, if we had no model of Jesus valuing time away from others to be with His Father . . . or if I never felt that sense of restoration that having quiet time alone can bring, then I, too, would be tempted to post my profile on Facebook. What I know to be true is that if I were on Facebook & were I to “tweet” the stream of my many thoughts along with the movements of my monthly schedule—were I more overly connected to other people in a fashion of dependency or habit—I would without a doubt miss those opportunities to connect with God that I know my soul could never live without.